Yesterday I had a defining #mommymoment. Bree, her Titi and I were at a #fallfest and found our selves in the middle of a melt down. Bree wanted her cup, and against my better judgment I gave it to her. As I anticipated she flung it to the floor.
What I wasn’t prepared for was the slow motion fall of the tray which held two cookies we were purchasing, and a cup of hot chocolate.
I was literally stunned. People were looking, she was still having a fit, I was embarrassed, angry and trying to decide my next move. It was literally like a movie.
The woman at the register however calmly called for someone to clean the mess, asked if we were all alright and let me now that she would ring me up. Another woman who worked there asked what we were getting and sweetly let us know that she’d go and grab another of each item.
When we finally got over to the side and I regained my bearings a little and I took a moment to discipline Bree. I firmly told her that it was never ok to throw things because she was angry.
I really wanted to tap her little hand. I REALLY wanted to go off on her. People were still watching me and I was still really embarrassed.
It was that exact moment that I realized the message I want to send to my daughter about discipline.
I don’t want to be the mom who disciplines from a place of anger, embarrassment or frustration. I want to correct from a place of love. In that moment did Bree deserve a spanking? Yes. But my motive would not have been to teach her, it would have been to make myself feel better.
When I went to the Word to get direction here’s what I found:
✨ "Be devoted to one another in love. Honor one another above yourselves." Romans’ 12:10
✨ “My son, do not make light of the Lord’s discipline, and do not lose heart when he rebukes you, because the Lord disciplines the one he loves. Hebrews 12:5-6
✨"Above all, love each other deeply, because love covers over a multitude of sins." 1 Peter 4:8
Praise the Lord! These are the principles I want to be rooted in- loving my baby girl even through the tough times! I can exhale now.
PS - Thanks a ton to team at the #RedBarnCafeandBakery. You were amazing yesterday! 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾