There's this thing that we're seeing more and more in the transformational coaching and consciousness community.
Some people call it "Spiritual Bypassing" - which is just a fancy term for using the defense mechanism of "I'm just avoiding the truth of what's going on here." Ha!
It's a way to repress and avoid uncomfortable feelings - rather than accept responsibility for - how things are really going down in your life, relationships or business.
If you've said some version of these kinds of words: "She's just trying to project her shit onto me."
"I'm not responsible for their feelings."
"It's not my fault, that he feels that way." "That's not about me, that's her/his stuff." Then you just might want to have yourself a little come to Jesus moment and check yourself, before you wreck yourself. Ha!
Truth is, you're NOT responsible for what another person chooses to feel or the meaning that they attach to your words or actions. Nobody MAKES another person feel anything.
But you can bet yer' sweet ass that YOU ARE RESPONSIBLE for WHAT you think, say and do. And HOW you think, say & do it. The content, intention & delivery is all on you.
So, if you acted like a glorified asshole and another person just happens to notice and they come to you to talk about it - you don't get to just "hot potato" that crap onto them.
If you behaved like a colossal douchebag and someone is brave enough to point this out to you - you might not want to try to "stop, drop and roll" your way out of ownership of said douchebaggery.
If you're the feckin' common denominator in a bunch of uncomfy scenarios in your life - you might just want to quit bobbing & weaving your way around the consequences of being yourself.
If a person cares about you enough to compassionately point out "your blindspots to your own bullshit" - then it might behoove you to put down your need to protect the persona of your fearful little ego's creation and take a solid look at the role you're playing in things.
I've seen too much and heard too much in this racket by now, to...... CONTD IN COMMENTS